Have you recently split up with your partner and are wondering what the chances are of a reconciliation? Splitting up can be a confusing and perplexing time. Nostalgia or worry about the future can make you hope for a reunion, and anger and hurt can make you believe you will never be able to go back.
- The friendly break up
In relationships where there is mutual honesty and respect and a real friendship beneath it all bodes well for getting back together. There may be no big event or issue that has caused the split, leaving fewer lingering, negative emotions and increasing the chances of a continued friendship. However, in some cases, and especially when there are no longer romantic feelings involved, friends with your ex may turn out to be the only long-term resolution.
- The will they, won’t they break up
If you have had an ‘on again off again’ type of relationship, you may have a higher chance of getting back together. But despite the odds, this is not always a healthy resolution. It can often mean that underlying issues are not fully addressed and the chances of you splitting up again are as equally high as you reuniting.
- Temporary split
Sometimes, couples decide that their break is a temporary measure so they can take time to reassess their feelings. Often, as time goes on, both parties may realise the relationship they had was good and that life without their former partner is not as fulfilling or enjoyable. Taking time out can make them realise that they took the other for granted and can often make them value their partner more when they get back together. The opposite is, of course, possible and one half or both halves of the couple may begin to appreciate their freedom and the joy that being single can bring.
- The one where you’re the ‘breaker upper’
When a break up happens because one half of the couple decided to call time on the relationship, it can often be down to them as to whether a rekindling is on the cards. The one who was broken up will feel hurt and rejected and less likely to initiate a truce or try to speak to the other about the relationship. The one who instigated the split is in an arguably strong position to ignore their pride and see whether or not their romance can be resumed.
- The high-emotion breakup
Most couples argue, but some arguments become more heated than others and end with both parties saying and doing things they wish they hadn’t, including making the decision to break up. This type of split can often result in couples reuniting but it depends on the nature of the fall out. Hurtful and insulting comments can be difficult to retract once they have been said, so it could take some time for both to cool down and begin to talk through their problems.
- The circumstantial breakup
Sometimes, the timing of a relationship is simply ‘off’. It could be that all the right feelings are present and you tick most of the compatibility boxes but circumstances drive you apart. It may be that one partner has a new career opportunity and needs to work away, has to look after an elderly relative, you may live far apart or one or both of you are on the rebound from a former relationship. Although it could be months or years before you are finally in the right place to restart your relationship,
Like relationships, all breakups are different. Although you may feel you want to get back with your ex straight away, taking time to really weigh up your options, consider your long-term life goals and discover what really makes you happy will help you come to terms with whatever the outcome is.
